10 Pillars of a Thriving Relationship

Relationships aren't always easy, but strong ones offer a wealth of benefits. Here are 10 reasons why a relationship deserves the effort to flourish: Mutual Respect and Trust: A solid foundation is built on respecting each other's opinions, values, and boundaries. Trust allows vulnerability and fosters a safe space to share your true self. Open Communication: Honest and clear communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. Sharing thoughts, feelings, and needs openly strengthens the bond and helps overcome challenges. Supportive Encouragement: A healthy relationship thrives when partners celebrate each other's successes and offer unwavering support during struggles. Shared Values and Goals: Having a common ground in core values and long-term goals fosters a sense of unity and direction for the relationship. Healthy Independence: While enjoying quality time together, successful couples also maintain healthy independence. Pursuing individual interests keeps passions alive and prevents codependency. Effective Conflict Resolution: Disagreements are inevitable, but strong relationships handle them constructively. Active listening, empathy, and a focus on solutions pave the way for growth. Emotional Intimacy: Feeling safe to express emotions freely creates a deep connection. Sharing vulnerabilities and offering emotional support strengthens the bond. Physical Affection and Intimacy: Physical touch is a powerful way to express love and affection. Finding a level of intimacy that works for both partners strengthens the emotional connection. Laughter and Shared Fun: Sharing lighthearted moments and finding humor together creates lasting memories and keeps the spark alive. Growth Mindset: Both partners being open to personal growth fosters a dynamic relationship. Embracing change and learning together keeps the bond fresh and exciting. Remember, a successful relationship is an ongoing journey, not a static destination. By nurturing these qualities, couples can create a lasting and fulfilling love.

The Allure of Love: Why we fall and Why It Matters

Love. An intoxicating cocktail of emotions, a powerful drive that shapes human experience. But beyond the butterflies and giddiness, why do we crave this state? Love offers a profound sense of connection. It compels us to seek out another, to build a bond deeper than friendship. This connection fulfills a core human need for belonging. In a loved one, we find a confidant, a cheerleader, someone who sees us truly and accepts us flaws and all. Love isn't just warm fuzzies; it fosters personal growth. Loving someone pushes us to be better versions of ourselves. We strive to impress, to support, to be worthy of their love. This can spark courage, inspire kindness, and lead us to new heights we might not have reached alone. Love is a potent teacher, revealing aspects of ourselves we never knew existed. Through love's lens, we see our strengths and weaknesses reflected back. It can unearth insecurities, but also unveil hidden capacities for empathy and understanding. Love is a wellspring of joy. Sharing laughter, celebrating triumphs, and weathering challenges together creates a tapestry of shared experiences. A loved one becomes our partner in crime, our biggest supporter, the one person whose happiness feels intrinsically linked to our own. Love isn't always sunshine and rainbows. It demands work, compromise, and navigating inevitable conflicts. But even through the tough times, a strong loving bond offers a sense of security and unwavering support. It's a safe harbor in the storm, a constant reminder that we're not alone. Ultimately, love is a chance to experience life's full spectrum – the joy, the sorrow, the growth. It's a dance of vulnerability and trust, a testament to the human need for connection. So, the next time love comes knocking, don't shut the door. Embrace the adventure, for the potential rewards are truly life-enriching.

When Relationship Turn to Betting Games! Part 1

Slowly, slowly, some relationships are no longer a thing of choice for some. It is just a matter of anything that goes. She wants me, she wants me not... he wants me, he wants me. Sometimes, we offend the other and then we think of what to expect. Would he lash out at me and maybe today he is going to be different. Maybe his boss wouldn't make him feel bad. When relationships turn to the stage where you are not sure he or she wants you or not, it has just turned to a betting game. And most times betting games lose. Winning is not meant to be in your favour but the person who puts the game up in the first place. So what do we do about it? Obviously, if you have reached the stage of games, it means the other person may not want you in their lives again. That's one point. Next is to find out where you stand, or make the person realize the stage he or she is putting you in. Next post we would continue on what else to try.

Relationship Mistakes People Make

On today’s episode: Matthew Hussey, a relationship expert on the new NBC show ‘Ready for Love.’ He’s got a new book out called, “Get the Guy,” but he joined Ali to talk about the biggest mistakes people make after they’ve gotten the guy (or girl), and are trying to have an actual relationship. The first one, Matthew said--in his charming British accent--is competitiveness. “The key to any relationship is the extent to which you see each other as a team.” Couples who compete with each other won’t stay couples for long. Ali insisted that an exception should be made for tennis. Next on the list is laziness, when people get too comfortable and stop doing the things that attracted their partner in the first place. Another big relationship destroyer is overanalysis. “A guy will say something and a woman will go back to her friends and say, ‘what did he mean by that?’” Matthew says that men tend to be less detail oriented than women, and therefore women can drive themselves crazy by not simply taking a comment at face value. Other things again seem to be... "That's not how your sister does it" Lack of maturity, humility, integrity, people pleasing and loss of trust never being satisfied. Always thinking the grass is greener on the other side And while writing this, I discovered a painful thing...most people giving advice on relationships mostly on TV are single...check it...what does this trend mean...Oprah Winfrey style or what.

Starting All over Again

Many have had this painful thing happening. The fact that after breaking up, how do they start again after all that has happened? Its easy for some...apologize, kneel (of course you would have to buy flowers or something or more just to show you are sorry about the past). Some it has been a simple kiss. But the fact remains...do not ever think things will be the same as it always was. Because if you do, you would get disappointed. I have, on many occasions. The only thing is that you can make it better than what it was before. Nothing like before remember. And be positive...its the only thing that keeps people including me myself when things starts to turn sour a little after starting the relationship over again. I imagine relationship stops at Girls or Boys, remember there is that lost brother, father, mother, sister, child or friend...it just would never be the same. Same like o'times they say...face reality, I say.

The Ego of a Man

Listen lady, have you ever been raped before? think of it. Now if you harass and demean a man's ego is just like doing that to him and men can react differently to such. A man may beat you up to let you know you hurt his ego, another may leave your house, another may never talk to you...the key idea is managing the Ego of a man. If you can do it, the world of the men is yours, to begin with right from time, women could do it just that these days humility has been replaced and somethings else. Ego of men differ so be careful, food is good for many but for some, a single touch on his head and...kabol. Whatever, I wish we will study this ego thing one day, but till then be careful my MUCHACHA

Is it lost love?

Yeah, I just remembered I had a friend who just stopped calling me and made me feel good only when I called. Of course she is male sorry female. So I want to go a little step ahead by visiting her even though we stay like 985km apart. Then I got beaten up and lost my phone. I got my number back, but she was the type that hardly ever called so I don't even know her number by heart and imagine if she will ever call. I have tried many ways to get her number back to no avail. I did like but the fact that someone that calls you almost everyday or beeps your phone reduces to almost a minimum and then...Don't it mean I should let go, like most things I do sometimes or I should continue to search for her when right now there is someone that is showing a lot of interest in me a man!? I don't know but say this to Rose when you see her, is it lost love you will come after? don't worry...somewhere, somehow, if i don't wait then someone would be waiting...But seriously it our love lost