Relationship Mistakes People Make

On today’s episode: Matthew Hussey, a relationship expert on the new NBC show ‘Ready for Love.’ He’s got a new book out called, “Get the Guy,” but he joined Ali to talk about the biggest mistakes people make after they’ve gotten the guy (or girl), and are trying to have an actual relationship. The first one, Matthew said--in his charming British accent--is competitiveness. “The key to any relationship is the extent to which you see each other as a team.” Couples who compete with each other won’t stay couples for long. Ali insisted that an exception should be made for tennis. Next on the list is laziness, when people get too comfortable and stop doing the things that attracted their partner in the first place. Another big relationship destroyer is overanalysis. “A guy will say something and a woman will go back to her friends and say, ‘what did he mean by that?’” Matthew says that men tend to be less detail oriented than women, and therefore women can drive themselves crazy by not simply taking a comment at face value. Other things again seem to be... "That's not how your sister does it" Lack of maturity, humility, integrity, people pleasing and loss of trust never being satisfied. Always thinking the grass is greener on the other side And while writing this, I discovered a painful thing...most people giving advice on relationships mostly on TV are single...check it...what does this trend mean...Oprah Winfrey style or what.

Starting All over Again

Many have had this painful thing happening. The fact that after breaking up, how do they start again after all that has happened? Its easy for some...apologize, kneel (of course you would have to buy flowers or something or more just to show you are sorry about the past). Some it has been a simple kiss. But the fact remains...do not ever think things will be the same as it always was. Because if you do, you would get disappointed. I have, on many occasions. The only thing is that you can make it better than what it was before. Nothing like before remember. And be positive...its the only thing that keeps people including me myself when things starts to turn sour a little after starting the relationship over again. I imagine relationship stops at Girls or Boys, remember there is that lost brother, father, mother, sister, child or friend...it just would never be the same. Same like o'times they say...face reality, I say.